My husband and I don’t own a TV but recently a friend gave us Season 11 of Hell’s Kitchen to watch. I was in seventh heaven, the drama, the food, the tension, the relationships and oh my word, the in-house fighting! There is nothing more addictive for a Life Coach fascinated with human behaviour, than that. While I was watching, it struck me how some people have the capacity to bounce back and perform brilliantly after messing up… publicly… on TV… while being shouted at… in front of everyone! And other people simply don’t. It made me curious about what the difference is.
Awful things can and do happen, divorce, illness, loss of a job, and sometimes more than one thing at a time, which leaves us feeling like flattened fairies. So what can we do to cultivate resilience in our mind? How do we strengthen our capacity to bounce back from adversity?
One of the ways to gain perspective is to flex our long term thinking muscle. What normally happens to you when something goes wrong? Either, we can think of nothing else, we don’t sleep or we wake early with frantic thoughts racing around our head, or we simply avoid thinking about it by distracting ourselves, usually with unhealthy escape mechanisms. So how will long term thinking help?
Let’s head back to Hell’s Kitchen for a minute. Instead of panicking and being swamped by emotions, the people who were able to use a more mature, intelligent approach were the ones who succeeded. Interestingly enough, it seems that being able to keep your long term perspective clearly in mind, helps motivate you to focus on the job at hand. In other words, the more clear the vision of your future is, and the more in touch you are with how you want to live, the better you are able to cope with what is happening now.
This is why absolutely everybody can benefit from working with a Life Coach. Life Coaching is all about getting to know yourself and enhancing your capacity to dream up vivid, achievable goals for the life you want. So if this sounds like a good idea to you then why are you waiting? Get in touch and let’s get started!